First time I ever heard this song, performed by Caetano Veloso, was while watching this Almodóvar film, Hable con Ella, many many years ago. Then today I was watching the gritty and gripping Moonlight, Best Film winner at this year’s Oscars… and suddenly a snippet of this song turned up again. Ohhhh… it took me back. It’s just so lovely.
I was a bit “last minute” getting things organized to attend this year’s Copa Jerez. Actually, what happened was that both my friend Tomoko @fu_yan and I had made the same mistake while registering online, so it turned out that we weren’t registered at all! Thankfully the good people at the Consejo Regulador said we could get passes for the second day of the two-day event (the first day was fully booked), and would be able to attend the forums and showroom. I got to Jerez on the first day (to save having to take a 7am train on Tuesday) and I’m so glad I did.
What happened was this! Another Jerez friend Pilar @enosherry was working as a guide/translator with the Copa Jerez international competitors and was told she’d be leaving them at the Claustros de Santo Domingo for a sold-out concert & cata, and then would pick them up afterwards to take them to the dinner venue at the end of the first day’s activities. We arranged to meet up at La Moderna across from the Claustros while the concert was on, and Tomoko and I decided to go a bit earlier to have a snack. Then while we were waiting for Pilar she sent us a message saying that there were a few empty seats at the concert and we should come over.
The “concert & cata” format has been kicking around the sherry triangle for awhile, with different sherries paired with different flamenco styles, but this night it was extra special. Josep Roca was our host along with Diego del Morao on guitar. But not just any guitar – this one was the last guitar Paco de Lucía had commissioned, but sadly never got to play as he tragically died before it was completed. I have to say it was a very moving and beautiful (and delicious!) experience. Also perfectly coordinated with a small army of waiters bringing the next sherry to us just as the next musical piece began. Well done, Consejo!
I am still reeling. Although the final judgement has not been confirmed it seems that The Dude may indeed be a Lady! Primary research is pointing in that direction, though there remain some areas of doubt. More soon…
I remember having to revise the whole Friend Thing while going through the whole Cancer Thing a few years ago. This was a hard time, of course, and in the end I had fewer friends. But those were the Real Friends, and I didn’t mourn the “loss” of the others that fell by the wayside because I knew I was better off.
Then I slowly rebuilt my life, eventually starting a new business for myself, while maintaining other projects I love doing. I was also able to start travelling, which has been wonderful, and incorporates my work and interests. So while it seems like I am always working, I prefer to think of it as always living, because my work is what I love doing. We are one and the same.
But once I started becoming relatively successful and enjoying my life again, I started to realize that the Friend Thing had once again begun to rear its ugly head. I guess because I was meeting so many new people on both a personal and professional level. Anyhow, some of these new “friends” decided that I was not actually the person they thought I was and, not only did they no longer wish to be friends, they felt somehow duty bound to express this intention along with a laundry list of complaints about me and my perceived shortcomings. Because, you know, relationships aren’t two-way streets and the fault had to be all mine (??). Frankly, if they’d just disappeared from my life I wouldn’t have noticed, but happily these people are now gone too.
ANYHOW… while I was walking in the park today on a beautiful bright blue summer morning this song suddenly came into my head, reminding me of all the wonderful people I know and love and appreciate. And so this song is for you, my best friends. You know who you are. xx