So remember a couple of weeks ago when I told you I had a stalker? And then Raincoaster set me straight and informed me that the person who has been following me around and posting comments all over my blog – after telling me they were fed up with me and wanted nothing more to do with me – was in fact a troll and not a stalker? Well, I thought that my post and the following comments would have been enough to let this person know in no uncertain terms that their comments were not welcome (even though I had previously emailed them to let them know this), and for awhile I thought they had taken the not-so-subtle hint.
But it turns out this person is either very thick or is so obsessed in their dislike for me that they just cannot go away and leave me alone. Because their latest trollish trick is to now start replying directly to my comments on other people’s blogs … yes, that’s right. Sometimes the comments are of a gushing and fawning nature, and other times they are direct jabs that are offensive in the extreme. But mostly they are “look at me” comments letting me know that this person is still obsessed with following me.
Make no mistake. These are not just comments made on the same blogs we both frequent. As I said before,we have many mutual blog friends. No, these are direct replies to my own comments on mutual friends’ blogs. How fucked up is that? And yes, I can mostly ignore it, especially the silly gushy stuff intended – one supposes – to make this person look good. But as for the grossly crass comments… I will ask the blog owners to please remove them.
I was recently told by this person that I was holding a grudge. Nothing could be farther from the truth. I don’t even think about this person until they show up – yet again, and again – in a very inappropriate manner. They wanted nothing more to do with me and I complied. No grudge going on there as far as I can see…
And so from me to you – please just piss off already.
You are being pathetically annoying.
casa azahar 
I think you should contact the police.
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Agreed, this sounds like something that is now in the realm of law enforcement. You don’t want this troll around, you have told the troll to leave you alone, the troll continues to bother you. Don’t know what laws are like in Spain, but I encourage you to look into this quickly.
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The real icky part is how they have started using other people’s blogs to get to me. That is seriously sick.
The police? Well, that seems a bit extreme, but I’m sure this person wouldn’t like to be reported to WordPress and have their account suspended…
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Az – I don’t know if I’d told you about my “stalker” (troll honestly doesn’t really cut it) who started leaving porno and filth-filled spam in my blog comments, and then branched out to subscribing me to websites, newsletters, get-rich schemes, etc. and finally doing the same thing to me that is happening to you. Instead of attacking me in the comments of others’ blogs, she would comment AS me, using my name, and trash the other blogger.
I handled it two ways – beyond, of course, blocking her as spam from all of my blogs.
1) I wrote directly to the bloggers involved, and explained what was happening. I also gave them my IP address, to prove that the comments they were seeing weren’t coming from me. Then they blocked her comments as well.
2) When I had enough evidence from the spam blog comments and a filthy e-greeting card she sent me, I reported her IP address to her internet service provider in New Zealand. I sent them the e-greeting card and one of her blog comments I’d saved, which was pretty incriminating. They lit on it, did their own investigation, and advised me that they would “handle it” and to immediately contact them if it happened again. I think they probably terminated or restricted her internet service…but I don’t know for sure and don’t really care.
The important thing is that the stalking has stopped, and I’m no longer afraid to open my email or my blogs any more. You can get the IP addresses from any comments s/he’s left on your blog, and from the full headers of any email s/he sends, and then use WHOIS to help you find the actual service provider and its complaint department. This sort of BS is illegal (even in Spain) and if alerted, an ISP is supposed to shut down the account.
Hope this helps.
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What an ordeal, Gaelen. Glad it’s over for you. I also had a stalker once who sent porn and threatening emails to me. That was awful. This one is mostly annoying and creepy.
I actually know this person’s ISP, email, home address, phone number… and their name.
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If you have all of that information, then it’s time to call the ISP and let them know what’s going on, and tell them to step up. 😉
In my case all we knew (from compiling information about her gleaned from communications earlier in the year when she was sane…) was her real name and her general location (NZ). We had a non-working cell phone number and her IP addresses, and finally, her ISP. Since she was thousands of miles away from me, there was no way to really hunt her down – although a couple of indignant NZ probloggers did offer to check out things and point me in the right direction with the ISP.
I’d report this person to his ISP – and let them do what they get the big money to do. 😉
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I really have to share this which Z posted in the atelier a while back:
http://www.lucypepper.com/pt/blog/18-blog/2081-troll-catalogue
Not that this will help you in any way, except maybe to know that you are not alone. {{{}}}
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Ha, that’s pretty funny. Also ironic because I remember when my troll caused most of the Atelier to give them the cold shoulder due to belligerent behaviour a few years ago. Foolishly or otherwise I was the only one who stood up for this person and then helped them get into blogging.
I just want the comments to stop.
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God, what a nightmare. Sounds like contacting their ISP is the best option – the only option to stop the trolling. The last thing you need is to get to a point where you don’t want to open your emails in case this troll has put something nasty in there. Give ’em hell!
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I’m not having problems with emails – that was another troll a few years ago.
The whole story here is simply this. A few months back this person and I had a disagreement. Then this person said they’d had enough of me and no longer wanted to be friends. Fine. The feeling was pretty much mutual anyhow. I stopped visiting their blog, skipped over their comments when I saw them elsewhere. No problem.
The problems only began when this person showed up again on my blog, leaving comments. I got in touch with them one last time, reminding them they no longer wished to be friends, and asked them to stop commenting on my blog. When they didn’t stop, I finally marked their comments as spam. The comments kept coming but I would only see them briefly in my spam folder before deleting them.
Then this past week this person started leaving direct replies to my comments on other people’s blogs. I mean, wtf?
So this has absolutely nothing to do with whatever disagreement we’d had. For me that was long forgotten and I had moved on.
This has to do with this person continuing to harass me by leaving comments when I clearly asked them to stop. And that last trick – using other people’s blogs – was really the last straw.
I have not named this person other than privately to one friend, so the only way others will know who I’m talking about is if they draw attention to themselves.
I sincerely hope that no further action will need to be taken and that this person will do me the courtesy of leaving me alone as I have asked.
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