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Covid has turned out to be similar to my cancer experience in terms of friends deciding I am no longer “worth the effort”. And that’s okay. For me it’s been a bit like clearing out your wardrobe and getting rid of things that no longer fit or suit you any more. And well, I say friends, but in reality these people were acquaintances, of which I have many (comes with the job).
At first it felt a bit odd, even hurtful, until I realised that when I am feeling lonely I am not actually lonely for them. And when I want to talk to someone, it’s never them. So in a sense I am Marie Kondo-ing my personal life and sticking with the people who spark joy. Closets could still do with some work though…
Yes, keep speaking your mind. Jeannie and I do so through our social media. We too have had to clean out our relational closet. But having fewer items allows more air inside. Air is good.
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Absolutely AIR IS GOOD. And the thing is, when I call someone an acquaintance that isn’t a bad thing. Because really, does anyone truly have more true friends than they can count on one hand? I love having lots of acquaintances from all over and sometimes I can feel quite close to them too. It’s the dissing and ghosting shit I can do without. Especially now.
You guys just keep posting those kitten pics. Those are definitely sparking joy.
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The closets never end. I opened the space under my stairs yesterday and a cubic yard of bubble wrap fell out;
I’ve just become numb. I have a long list of clients and a shortlist of people I consider my closest and most important friends (which includes you) and I can’t think of anything to SAY to people in either group. Every day is the same, so I have no news, every day when I read the news I have less hope, and refusing to give up is taking all my energy. I can’t tell you when I’ve read so much lightweight escapist fluff or felt less like using my allegedly big brain. I hate to bring anyone else down with it.
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When I moved here three years ago I got rid of half my clothes, donated most of my books to an English language school, seriously downsized… I think it’s time to do another purge.
I find I reel out the pat answers for the people who only want to hear that. And that’s fine. Then I get on the phone with you and we just laugh and talk silly stuff. So much for getting into ISSUES. 😉
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Silly stuff is the best!
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