
And long post hangover ramble . . .
When Nog, Pablo and I finally left the hospital on Thursday, after receiving my unhappy updated prognosis, it was well past lunch time. So we decided to look for somewhere to eat and ended up near Pipocas’s house. There were quite a few options but I opted for Manolo León because it looked quite special and I decided – hang the expense! – because I felt like a party. . .
First thing ordered was a lovely bottle of cava. Pablo asked what we were celebrating and I said “my upcoming extremely intense life”, but the toast was made to friends. Sitting there with my once sorta kinda boyfriend and my best friend in the whole world, and thinking about all my other wonderful friends, I felt very lucky indeed. And so we had a wonderful lunch. It was my first visit to Manolo León … I hope to get back again. Maybe for my birthday? Anyhow, this is what we had …

complementary starter of spinach & garbanzos

fabulous revuelto with spicy chorizo & potatoes, which we shared

Nog’s lamb kidneys and chips

Pablo’s vegetable lasagna

my scrumptious sea bass with cheese sause and little raviolis

Nog and me

the restaurant – very pretty
After the cava we ordered another bottle of wine, so we were quite happily tipsy by the time we finished. Then Pablo suggested that we find somewhere to go for an after-lunch cocktail. We ended up going across the street to a place called Momentos, which happens to be just downstairs from where Pipocas lives. It’s quite modern and has a great ambientation, as well as very pleasant & friendly staff.

Pipocas lives just above this patio.

Inside the bar … will have to try the tapas sometime

fabulous bathroom with chalk provided for graffiti
Our very charming waiter – Carlos from Argentina – asked us where we were from and when I told him I was from Canada he said that every day an elderly Canadian woman came into the bar for a glass of shandy. And sure enough, after about half an hour she turned up. By this time I’d heard from Pipocas. She’d just got back from her business trip to a nearby village (which was why she wasn’t at the hospital with us) and I told her we were getting drunk downstairs, so she came to join us. By the time she arrived, we’d gone over to introduce ourselves to Jo (short for Josephine) and ended up moving over to her table with our drinks.
Jo is from Vancouver and is a very young 82-year-old. She’s lived abroad for a lot of her life and finally settled in Sevilla, presently living in a residence for the elderly. Anyhow, we all had a great time talking and swapping stories until Pablo finally had to leave, closely followed by Nog who had two classes at home. So us three girls kept on yakking away. I ended up giving my phone number to Jo. I hope she gets in touch – if not, I know where to find her every day around 5 o’clock. It’s a shame I didn’t take any photos of them, or get Carlos to take one of all of us.
Weirdly, both of Nog’s students ended up cancelling last minute while he was en route, so he turned around and came back to the bar again. Just in time to walk me home after Pipocas and Jo headed out. Lurching home through the park we held hands – we haven’t done that in a very long time. And we’ve been holding on to each other ever since, like we don’t want to miss even one minute of being together.
Meanwhile, we both woke up with quite outrageous hangovers yesterday morning. And I had to go to the dentist! Way back in April I lost a filling and had it replaced, but ever since then I’ve had trouble chewing on that side of my mouth and at almost every meal something would get stuck and my tooth and gums would start aching. This was just a couple of weeks before all the cancer stuff started so I had other things to attend to, but this week I finally decided I couldn’t put up with the constant tooth pain anymore. I felt quite sorry for my dentist because I’m sure that, in spite of several brushings before leaving the house and chewing gum on the way over, my breath must have still smelled like a distillery. But it’s all fixed now (free of charge) and it’s wonderful to have pain-free meals again.
And as if waking up with a hangover wasn’t bad enough, I discovered that my usual morning hour of Sex and the City has been replaced with Betty. Okay, this was about the fifth time they’d shown the entire series since I first started watching it in May, but it felt weird not to have it to turn to yesterday morning. Yet another post prognosis change …
I’ve been kind of all over the map emotionally. I don’t know if I’m in denial or not (what are those five stages?), but everything feels almost too intense. It’s quite exhausting. The tears only come when I think about leaving Nog and the cats, because I’m worried about how they’ll be without me. Then I tell myself that this may not happen for quite awhile … then I get scared that the next prognosis might take away even my one year. I had this fantasy of just maxing my credit card and Nog & I going off to New York and London and taking a cruise of the Greek islands. Of course, if I did that I’d probably end up living another ten years with massive credit card debt.
When Ricardo (from The Team) heard about the latest prognosis he told me not to worry so much and that statistics are only data. He also said he’d arrange a trip so Nog & I can visit his country house in the mountains – something else to look forward to. I’d really like to sit down and talk to him about all this stuff. I think it would help a lot.
So, this has turned into a very rambly post. It was quite bittersweet looking at that post I linked to (about my last visit to the dentist) because it was almost like I saw all this coming, yet I was still blissfully unaware of it. Anyhow . . .
I shall leave you with this ‘blackmail’ photo taken at Momentos with our after-lunch cocktails, that I promised Pablo I wouldn’t post on my blog. 😛

Blimey, Pablo is pretty damned gorgeous..:)
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Hi, Az – very sorry to hear about all this.
But even if maxing out the credit cards isn’t an option, you definitely shouldn’t be afraid to spoil yourself every chance you get! It certainly can’t hurt, and there’s absolutely no reason to feel guilty about it.
I think having a party whatever the news is entirely the right attitude.
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If you can sneak something back in Zoomer’s luggage for your dear old pal on Canada… I request Pablo.
Surely this can’t be too much to ask.
On another (and less selfish) note…. Zoomer is right in his comment on your previous posting. “Plenty of time for a bucket list and a shitload of living. Do your chemo, do the good patient thing, do the second opinion, do the town.”
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Or not. My across the hall neighbor was in the same predicament a couple of years ago. Stage 4 colon cancer. She took the chemo, it made her skin peel. She did have about six months extra, but the end was pretty nasty anyway.
She had to have a second surgery, and some of her friends blamed her for not taking the chemo for longer. I didn’t, I saw her every day, and saw how miserable she was on it. And this is stuff they gave her orally. I agree with the shitload of living. More chemo…maybe not. But it’s your life. Not anybody else’s. Personally, I recommend wine and tapas. And good drugs when the time comes.
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Yeah, the Pabster is a cutie. And he’ll be happy to read that he’s a hit with the ladies …
I took oral chemo along with the injected stuff in July and August and it didn’t affect me too badly, Silverstar. Mind you, it didn’t affect the cancer cells badly either. Or not badly enough. I won’t know what they are going to recommend until mid-November. I just hope I’ve still got options by then.
Hmmmm … maybe Christmas in London? Nog says he would love the chance to take me somewhere that he knows better than I do, and he’s often thought about showing me around London. But again, things are kind of on hold until November 12th. Well, except for making the most of this next chemo-free month.
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Hi Az, nice story.
I think it’s hard to relate to all of this without going through it one’s self. I guess that’s why many of us are at losses for words. One thing I suspect I can relate to though – I think if I got such terrible news, among the first things I’d do is go out and get as thoroughly shitfaced as I could in as excellent a way as possible. You seem to have managed that well. Nice one 😀
Hope you get a dream holiday soon too, that also sounds like an excellent plan if you can manage to finance it…
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Well, it seemed like a good idea at the time, Orcus. But I sure felt like shit the next morning. Still, got some good memories, good photos … 🙂
I got an email from that most adorable cuddly bear, zoomer, this morning. He said that instead of him coming over here before I start chemo (something we’ve been planning for ages) that he could finance one of my dream holidays with Nog. When I read the email out to Nog we both started crying and talked about what a lovely offer it was … then both of us said almost at the same time – “but I’d rather see Craig!”
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u seem 2 have such an adventurous palate….the food looks yummy & im sure it tasted delicious, but the chocolate-looking syrup drizzle scares me!
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I have no idea what that brown stuff was, DKL. But I’ll be sure to ask next time!
You’re rather adventurous yourself, posting on blogs these days…
Nice to see you here. 🙂
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Az,
GET ON THE FUCKING BOAT. GO GO GO. who gives a shit about debt at this point.
sorry for all the language. I’m feeling passionate right now.
LIVE. live.
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Oooh, I’m raising a glass of cava in your direction at the minute – slainte! That meal looks delish. I had a celebratory lobster thermidor and bottle of chablis last night for my birthday – it is good to find a restaurant that you look forward to visiting agin, eh? When’s your birthday?
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Language away, cj! Not sure if this is actually boat weather, but I think we’ll end up doing something special soon.
Belated happy birthday, Linda! You’ll have to come back and sample more of my favourite places. My birthday? January 7th.
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I’d have left this on the latest posting, Az…. but…. Well….
This is to Az and Nog, and all the people who know and love them
Today is Canadian Thanksgiving.
While it might seem that it is hard to come up with something to be thankful for, this year I thought I would pass along what I am giving thanks for, today.
I am giving thanks for all the wonderful friendships I enjoy and all the friendships my friends enjoy.
I am thankful for all the loving people who surround me, both in RL and in my various online guises.
I am thankful that there are so many people who love and care for my dear friend Az, as well as Nog and I am thankful for my lovely Az….
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If you had to have such a Prognosis, at least you had a party to balance it out, hangover notwithstanding.
I meant to comment in the previous post that zoomer’s post there was right on, I loved it! I also love what Anneke said; what a lovely way to celebrate a holiday, and I second her thoughts about friends.
PS, your post reminded me I must get some Spanish cava for New Year’s this year — I really like the stuff.
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That really is lovely, Anneke. Thanks.
Party time is over for awhile now, SC, as zoomer is leaving in the morning. It’s been a great week.
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