I recently found out that a friend of mine has breast cancer. Yes, she is scared. And dealing with the situation as best she can, with the support of family and (some) friends. It’s brought me back to remembering how it was for me when I was first diagnosed. I had no idea how to feel, felt quite lost at sea. On a dark and stormy night. And now I’m okay. For now. And she isn’t. Yet. Treatment has yet to be determined – the goddam waiting is hell for her, and I know how that is. I also know that – for now – all I can do is be here for her, not be afraid of her fears, not feel any need to “make her feel better” and let her feel okay about sharing whatever she wants or needs to. Oh, and send virtual hugs. This is for you, A. xx